I made sure that my last post was harder on Christians because I believe that a true change in the conversation needs to start at home. For me, that was the easiest way to start inside and work my way out. Today, I thought that I might start getting to what I feel is the root of the problem. As a result, I’m sure that this one is going to step on some toes.
I wrote a piece on objective truth a while back. I was going to review that for a bit, but this is the internet and it is far easier for you to just click here and go read it, if you haven’t already. That post starts us on the road to what I feel is one of the most significant reasons that we all seem to be at each others throats with a lot of issues: We no longer have a high degree of shared values.
I truly believe that the push for multi-culturalism and our rejection of objective morality has left us without any sort of societal moorings. I don’t want to tie that statement to current issues for examples, because I feel that it might lose some of its weight. Hopefully, by backing us up a few years, I can look at how we arrived at our current situation.
Let’s start with marriage. I’m not one to beat-around-the-bush, so I’ll just get right to stepping on people’s toes. Just about every culture had a high regard for marriage in the nineteenth and early twentieth centuries. Regardless of religion, it was an institution which was not to be entered into lightly. Violations of one’s marriage vows were certainly seen as taboo and often as severe, punishable offenses. It wasn’t just the Judeo-Christian folks who made such a big deal about marriage; it was almost everyone. Then something changed.
I’m not sure if it was the sexual revolution or our changing legal system which led the charge, but somehow we decided to allow the devaluation of the institution of marriage. Adultery went from something that could get you a big, fat, scarlet letter on your chest to something that had any number of excuses. Things not working out or maybe marriage isn’t quite what you thought it would be? Just give up. There is always next time.
Broken marriages have become so commonplace that I’ve even heard jokes made within communities of faith. I used to know a guy from church who joked about how many times he had been married. I’ve got news for that guy. Multiple divorces doesn’t make you funny…it makes you a failure…at a lot of things.
The point, however, is not marriage. It is about whether or not we share values. The simple fact is that we absolutely must have shared values on at least some critical, core issues or there is no way that we will ever live in harmony or peace. As much as it makes some of us uncomfortable, we have to recognize that there is Good and there is Evil. We have to not only understand that these two things exist, but that they are in direct conflict with each other. Then, we have to pick a side and understand that that choice will naturally lead to conflict with those on the other side.
Our media has tried to remove objective morality and shared values from our society. The only values they promote are tolerance and non-judgement, which have been perverted in the way that have been presented to the public. Also, they are poor substitutes for mutual respect and love.
We have been inundated with atrocious, morally destitute entertainment and news for so long that we have lost our sense of Good and Evil, Right and Wrong. I can’t tell you how many times that I have been shocked when an otherwise sane and rational person has demonstrated a working knowledge of the cast of The Jersey Shore or the antics of Miley Cyrus or the family dynamics of the Kardashians. Let’s think about that for a minute. Here are what I consider to be completely reasonable people who have conversant understanding about a group of young people whose moral quandaries and substance abuse antics became the fodder for tabloids. The Kardashians (whose main claim-to-fame is a daughter who had a sex tape released on the internet) have commanded our attention for years, now.
We have lost our minds.
I feel like I need a shower after just thinking about those folks long enough to write about them and the point is not even that the aforementioned people are evil. They are just sad, broken people that have been made into celebrities.
The problem is that we have allowed it to happen. The problem is that we have allowed this drivel to distract us from the real issues. The problem is that we have allowed our moral sense to be degraded because instead of our diversity strengthening the moral conversation, it is being used to dilute it.
We have got to find a way back to where, regardless of our faith or lack thereof, we can unite as a people and agree as to whether something is right or wrong. We have to fix our moral barometers, so that we can once again accurately grasp the difference between good and evil. We have got to remember that in any given situation, there may be a million perspectives…but there is only one truth.
I started to lay out what I think is a very important framework for a conversation, yesterday, in a post. Although a few people got distracted by the cute picture of the kids and how it displayed on Facebook, my hope is that most people read the whole piece. Either way, you can go back and look at it if you missed it, as it is a prerequisite for today’s post.
Here are the two titles for today’s post and you get to choose which title to apply, based on your own personal convictions:
The Necessity for Mutual Respect
Love Your Neighbor as Yourself
I chose the titles because each lends itself to a particular reader. I won’t bore you with details, but one title is for Christians and the other is for those who are not Christians. I know that those are really broad parameters, but for the purposes of what I’m trying to illustrate, I think they are adequate.
Yesterday, I wanted to lay a foundation of the fact that we are all human beings and that as such, we have equal value. I wanted to cut through the whole “us” versus “them” paradigm which seems to permeate all of the coverage of each and every event that we are currently being fed by all forms of media. If we are ever going to find healthy solutions for our problems, any of them, then we are going to have to approach them from a “we” perspective.
The simple truth is that we can have no progress unless we all respect each other in the process of finding solutions. I know that issues quickly become quite complicated, but we have to start from a position of mutual respect for others as human beings. This is a truth so simple that it is evident in almost all of children’s media ever produced. We have to respect each other, despite our differences, if we are ever to get along. Beyond that, we must seek to find common grounds from which to build relationships that will lead to solutions.
I chose the Christian/Non-Christian distinction to start with because that seems to be one that is currently in play in most of the discussion that I have seen. Also, it is one with which I have had the most interaction.
I can only speak briefly to those in the Non-Christian camp in regard to many of the current conflicts. To those folks, I would merely like to point out that we must have mutual respect for each other in order to find solutions. Whatever your religious, political, ethical, or moral underpinnings, you have to be willing to engage in civilized, respectful communication and trustworthy negotiation in order to reach a mutually beneficial outcome. As we may or may not share much in the way of moral, ethical, or intellectual convictions, I am left with appealing to any sense that you may have of justice, fairness, or love.
As for Christians, I could go all day on this but I will keep it simple, we are required to love our neighbor as ourselves. Actually, we are even commanded to love our enemies. Boy, that’s a tricky one, huh? We like to discuss the story of the good Samaritan, but we often stop short of realizing its full implications. Jesus was telling this story to a primarily Jewish audience. An audience which hated Samaritans. In fact, I think that it is important to note how often Jesus interacts with Samaritans, both as illustrations and as people. Samaritans were the ultimate “those people” to the Jews of his Jesus’ day.
Take a minute. Think about a people group that you dislike…maybe even one that you hate. That is your Samaritan. Here’s the hard thing to hear: Jesus loves those people, too. Now, here’s the hardest thing to hear: Jesus expects you to love those people, as well.
Ouch. That really stings, doesn’t it. That’s one heck of an expectation. It creates a lot of uncomfortable situations. I makes us have to love people who have a lot of qualities that we really don’t like.
I’ve got to be honest. When I take a minute to make a list of people that I can’t stand, that list comes really easy. Liars, thieves, adulterers, hipsters (we have a lot of those in Asheville), guys who wear wear pastel Polo shirts with khaki shorts and boat shoes with no socks, most white people with dreadlocks, people with a sense of entitlement, and on the list goes…
I have to work every day to try and love the people on my list. Some days, I do pretty well. Some days, I don’t do well at all. The problem is (and this is the reason for this whole series of posts) that the internet and how our society works gives us a perfect venue to make complete jackasses out ourselves in about thirty seconds with a comment on a post or a couple of words on the street. The crazy thing is how often we do it and still feel good about ourselves.
I know that we’ve got some serious issues that are at stake, but if we are descending into a state of becoming raging jerks, then we have lost the ability to bring anything positive to the situation. This isn’t just about keeping one’s composure while secretly hating someone in the back of your mind, this is about seeking to find a way to lovingly relate to another human being with whom you potentially totally disagree.
I know this is a lot to ask and that this post is being harder on Christians that on those who are not, but we are commanded to go that extra mile. If we are blasting people on the internet or in any public forum, then we are falling woefully short in following that command.
Next time, we start digging into the hard stuff. I promise to be an equal-opportunity offender before I get done with all of this.
Just to bring everyone up to speed, I’ve spent the last couple of months dealing with the death of my father and helping to get my mother straightened away on being able to live as independently as she would like. All this while trying to get caught up on all of my projects, raising a family, and trying to get ahead at work so that I could really enjoy the vacation which we just took. (Incidentally, talking about one’s vacation after-the-fact on the old interwebs keeps people from knowing that one’s house is vacant for nine days…a fact which seems to escape some of you people…seriously, take note.) All of this with an apparently freshly herniated disc just above my spinal fusion. Fun stuff.
Taking care of the things that really matter did a great job of limiting my time on the internet and provided me with the “Cliff’s Notes versions” of all the issues that were being bandied about in all forms of traditional and social media. To be completely honest, I thought that what was getting through the time crunch filter was bad enough, but I spent a little time perusing the web this week and I have never wanted to sell everything that I own and move out West or adopt a nomadic existence than I have over the last several days. What I have been seeing is enough to make me just worry about my own family and let the world continue to burn, but then I thought that through and I don’t want to leave my kids to survive in a world which resembles a Mad Max film, so I’m going to give this one more shot. Hopefully you guys will share this around and maybe we can get some healthy conversation going.
I would like to restate for what seems like millionth time that we, the general population, are being guided/coaxed/manipulated by the media in all of its forms and by giant corporations and by our respective governments to do the following:
- Buy things. The movie Fight Club got that single thing right.
- Be at each other’s throats so that we don’t rebel against governmental systems that are exploiting us, while failing to provide adequate services or respect our basic or constitutional rights. If we are busy fighting each other, then we can’t unite effectively against a common enemy.
- Buy more things. I sense a theme.
- And finally, be calm, placated, productive citizens…all to the benefit of corporations and government.
If you want a quick primer, please go read George Orwell’s 1984 and then watch the news cycle for twenty-four hours. Then it is okay to go hide in bed and pull the covers up over your head. Trust me, you will want to do that very badly.
I know that I’ve got a lot of ground to cover, so I’m not going to attempt to do an overview or even an outline. Today, I am going to start with one simple fact: When we are watching the news or looking at the internet or reading a newspaper we are talking about other human beings. I can not state that more simply or seriously enough. We are talking about the lives of other human beings. If we can’t take that seriously than we are beyond all hope.
I am going to give you a list and everyone that reads it is going to agree and disagree with some of the people and groups listed, but I want everyone to take a deep breath and really think about what I am trying to do. I don’t want my two children growing up in the world that is left by the next great war or having to be a part of that war.
- When we talk about refugees, we are talking about human lives.
- When we talk about aborted babies, we are talking about human lives.
- When we talk about illegal aliens, we are talking about human lives.
- When we talk about executed law enforcement officers, we are talking about human lives.
- When we are conducting drone strikes in Syria, we are talking about human lives.
- When we read about Christians being beheaded in by Islamic State, we are talking about human lives.
- When we talk about suicide statistics, we are talking about human lives.
- When we talk about drug reactions, we are talking about human lives.
- When we talk about war in the Middle East, we are talking about human lives.
- When we talk about floods and earthquakes and storms, we are talking about human lives.
- When we are talking about domestic violence and human trafficking and orphans, we talking about human lives.
Humans lives means other human beings just like my kids.
Just like your kids.
Just like your nieces and nephews.
Just like your parents and grandparents.
Just like your friends and family.
Just like the people who look like you.
Just like the people with whom you attend church or synagogue or mosque.
Just like your friends from the bar.
Just like the people with whom you tailgate at the big games.
Just like your work associates.
Just like you.
What you think about the Pope’s latest speech or how he delivered or who he delivered it to does not matter. The same thing goes for the President of the United States. Your trendy hashtag does not matter. Your political views and affiliations do not matter. What you think about the Clerk of Court in Kentucky does not matter. None of these things really matter until we start respecting and valuing human lives…and I mean that in a for real, get your hands dirty, get off of your couch, get-involved kind of way.
Hashtags don’t help people. Tweets don’t help people. People getting active and loving other people in a real, hands-on way helps people.
We need to turn off the filters and throw away the selfy-sticks and forget about whether or not we need the need an Apple Watch or McDonald’s product or Starbuck’s coffee. We have got monumentally serious human crises all over the globe and those have always led to two things when left unaddressed for significant periods of time: Revolution and War.
You may have read this post and think that I’m all “conspiracy theory” or “gloom-and-doom,” but I suffer from only one problem: I read history books. I paid attention in every history class that I ever took and we are fools if we don’t start paying closer attention to the things that we do. If we don’t make change, it is history who will be the judge.
“…’Cause this is what I was meant to do and you can’t put that on sale” – Rivers Cuomo (Weezer)
I finally seem to have caught traction, over the past two weeks, so let’s see about getting back to business. I would like to take a moment to thank some folks who really went the extra mile during the passing of my father.
These folks really went out of their way to make sure that I was okay: Bucky and Kristin, Matty P., Joseph Speed Jones Tanner III, Brian, Cliff, Trip, and P. Scott. You guys are awesome! Thanks.
My dad passed away at 1:40am. I’ll probably have a lot to say about the last week and his passing at a later date. All that I’ve got to say, at this point, is that my dad was awesome. I would say more about how amazing he was, but it would most likely cause many people to have feelings of inadequacy about their own fathers.
I’m going to take a quick respite from trying to process what is going on with my father to get out the firehose for some of the folks that I’ve seen in debate with various Jenner and Dolezal-related issues over the last two weeks. Hopefully, I can bring a little clarity to several of you who seem to be struggling and are perhaps out of your depth when it comes to the following two topics.
First, there is no such thing as “my” truth. There is simply “the” truth. The truth is objective. The truth is reality. The truth is a little bit of science, a little bit of religion, a little bit of philosophy, and a whole lot of reality. The truth does not change and does not waver. It is as solid as concrete and tough as forged steel. The truth is the same for us all, only some of us choose not to see it. There is simply one truth. A person either accepts that or they don’t .
You can, however, have “my” perspective or “my” opinion or “my” feelings. Those are accurate statements. Those are things that actually exist.
Any time you hear someone say “this is my truth” you need to understand one thing above all else…you need to understand that that person is self-delusional and is not to be trusted. You can pity them, you can humor them, but if you keep their company or listen to their counsel, you are a fool.
Second, you can say that you are whatever you want, but that doesn’t make it true. I will give you an example:
This is Bruce Ernest Greene. He is my son and he is 2 1/2. Two days ago, he decided that he was “Star Rebel” who is presumably some intergalactic rapscallion, much like Han Solo. Although I am certainly proud of my son’s imagination and taste, he is not Star Rebel…he is Bruce. He is always Bruce, although he may choose to pretend that he is a puppy or “some kid” or Star Rebel.
I hope that this helps some of you folks regain your center. If not, our next discussion might cover a couple of different topics, such as whether or not a person can actually contract Sickle Cell Anemia as an indicator of racial determination or perhaps a lengthy treatise on Y Chromosomes.
This week, more than ever, I am acutely aware that there are far better ways for us to be spending our time than debating issues which are best left with those who are directly involved. Our propensity to waste time on such issues and internet drivel is staggering.